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In Arabic, Irshad means “guidance.” So go ahead — share your burning question, especially if it can lead to better conversations.

equality Moral Courage

I love how Moral Courage ED bridges ideas that seem to be opposites, like social justice and free speech. Is there a both/and way to think about “equity,” too? Or do we really have to choose between equal opportunity (which many conservatives insist on) versus equal outcomes (which a lot of progressives insist on)? – TJ

Given the culture war that’s raging around Critical Race Theory in K-12 schools, you ask a timely question, TJ. And yes, there is a way to bridge progressives and conservatives on this issue. 

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Lego

My 12-year-old recently heard about “dinner-debate nights” and really wants to hold them at home. Any tips? – Amy

Ahhh, the dinner-table debate. It’s an old idea that carries a brand new urgency: Done well, it can teach young people how to discuss polarizing issues without fearing disagreement and, at the same time, without scorning the “other side.” So you’re right to seek advice, Amy.

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Tone policing

I’m a 10th grader who participated in your workshop, “How To Be Heard (Even By People Who Disagree With You).” You emphasized that we’re more likely to get a fair hearing from our Other if we leave them feeling respected than if we get in their face and demand to be listened to. But aren’t you tone policing? – Emily

You make “tone policing” sound like a bad thing! And I understand why. It’s unfair that people who come from marginalized communities often get dismissed because they’re “too emotional” — angry, aggressive, loud.

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